Medication management is a dance between safety and style.

Mom found the voice of her medication wheel both annoying and bossy. It beeped incessantly until she opened the thing to take her pills (which is precisely what it is supposed to do). She yelled at it, mimicked its shrill voice, and threw it across the room a couple of times to show it where to go. To justify her actions, she said, “Well, if it were Tom Selleck asking with his sultry voice, of course I’d take my medication! Could you please make it sound like Tom Selleck?”

We went through the entire spectrum of medication management strategies over several years, pre- and post-dementia diagnosis at home—labeled bottles, weekly boxes, pharmacy-administered pill packs, and that medication wheel. Today, in her long-term care residence, hand-to-hand personal administration is the rule. Now, a lovely staff member walks in with a large smile each morning and says, “Good morning, I have your candy!”

Safety and Security First

While style matters, it only goes so far. Safety and security must never take a backseat.

I once saw a well-intended caregiver try to create a visual guide for filling a weekly medication box. They taped actual pills onto a piece of paper, writing the name, dosage, doctor, and time of day next to each one. (The notes happened to be in German, but the language is not relevant here). Over time, updates and changes were crossed out and rewritten in pen, and words were circled for emphasis. While this makeshift system might have been clear to the caregiver who created it, it was incredibly confusing to the patient trying to use it and not safe. In other words: please don't do this.

To keep things clear and safe, I like think of the Medication Management Process in four steps:

1) Specifics: For each medication, who is the prescribing medical provider, what is its name, what is its purpose, and what does it look like? What are the contact details of the pharmacy?

2) Schedule: When does each medication need to be taken and are there any additional instructions (e.g., take first thing in the morning at 7am without food).

3) Safety: Where is it stored (e.g., pill box vs. medication wheel)? Who has access to this? And what does the medical provider recommend, particularly when considering the cognitive abilities of the patient.

4) Style: Who or what administers the medication (e.g., a human or a machine), what is their tone of voice or manner?

📍 Critical note: Always maintain an ongoing dialogue with your medical professional about any cognitive, behavioral, or health changes you observe so that medication strategies can be adjusted safely.

Our Medication Master Record (PDF) is designed to help you to track the Specifics and Schedule—medications and supplements, dosages, timing, prescribing health professionals, and pharmacy. When it comes to Safety and Style, have a conversation with your medical provider. You can use the quick guide below to prepare for your conversation by reviewing your options before your discussion.

Use this quick guide to prepare for the conversation with your medication provider to understand the different options for medication management.

To complement any of these strategies, download our Medication Master Record (PDF) to keep a record of the Specifics and Schedule.

Labeled Bottles: This is where most of us start. The pharmacy dispenses standard bottles with the dosage and instructions written on the bottle (e.g., take with food in the morning) based on the doctor's orders.

Weekly Boxes: Classic pill organizers, usually sorted by days of the week. They typically feature two slots (morning/evening) or four slots to help the patient track their daily intake. The idea here is to make it easier for the patient to know when to take their medication.

Pill Packs: Some pharmacies offer the option of dispensing medication in pill packs, often for an additional fee. Pills are distributed in blister packs, often for multiple weeks at a time. There is typically one strip for each day and one blister for each time of day.

📍A timer or alarm is frequently used with labeled bottles, weekly boxes, or pill packs to remind the patient when to take their medication.

Medication Wheel: Medications are put in a mechanical wheel, which is locked with a key. You input the times for medications to be administered. At these specified times, the machine beeps, the patient opens the small window and takes the medication. Only after the patient takes the meds will the machine stop beeping. They often come with paper inner rings, which serve as templates so you know where to put the medications. This photo shows the inner ring for three times a day.

Pill Packs + Medication Wheel: A hybrid strategy. To simplify filling the wheel, you can use pre-sorted pharmacy pill packs. Simply match the times on the blister pack to the slots in the wheel, emptying the contents of one blister into one slot. You program the timing for medication administration.

Personal Administration (Assisted Living or Long-Term Care): Medications are ordered, stored, and locked by the facility. Neither the family caregiver nor the patient control the medication or have direct communications with the pharmacy, although the family may be able to work with the facility to choose the pharmacy. At the designated time, a staff member physically brings the medication to the patient and documents the administration.

📍 Tip: Facing resistance? If you are having a difficult time convincing your loved one that they need help with their medication, ask a medical provider about a possible independent assessment to be done by a neutral person. In our case, an occupational therapist asked Mom to do an exercise simulating a medication set-up by sorting and counting colored beans and putting them in different boxes. The resulting professional recommendation carried far more weight than a family member's opinion. Fighting assistance may not be about the medication but rather the fear of losing independence.

Easily track medications and supplements, dosages, timings, and prescribing health professionals. A printable master record so you never have to recall details during a crisis.

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I remain a huge advocate for the medication wheel. This LiveFine was a life saver for us when Mom was living at home for a few reasons. We had two generations of this wheel.

As a caregiver, I respect the beeping boss lady and safety she provides for a loved one at home. I'm also optimistic that the HealthTech providers will jump on AI bandwagon to finally improve the voices and add some style.

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In case you are not familiar with Tom Selleck, here he is (also known as Magnum PI from the 1980s and Frank Raven in Blue Bloods).
“Well, hello! Would you like to take your medication?”
Would you say "no” to those eyebrows and that voice?!

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